Bali Wedding Planner by Spectrum Bali

You’re Engaged!

How to Announce Your Engagement to Family and Friends.
The moment you become engaged, you want to shout it from the rooftops. Well, here's a more effective and less dangerous way to do that!

Announce your engagement to the bride's parents first. Meet with them in person to ask for their blessing and talk about your plans.
Meet with the groom's parents next and discuss your future plans with them as well.
Tell the rest of the immediate family and close friends, including any children and former spouses if you've been married before.
If your parents, other family members or friends want to throw an engagement party for you, arrange the timing so that the party will occur just before
any newspaper announcements you plan to make. You can also throw your own engagement party if you wish.
Be aware that it's traditional for the father of the bride-to-be to propose a toast to the couple during the engagement party; this serves as the formal
announcement.
Write thank-you notes to the hosts of the party, and to anyone who has given you gifts, immediately after the party. (Even though gifts are not expected,
some people may bring them.)
Make your newspaper announcement. Check with your local paper for the procedure.
Announce your engagement on a wedding Web site, if you like. Follow their guidelines for submissions.

Be prepared for lots of direct mail from now on.

Here's one possible format for a newspaper announcement: "Mr. and Mrs. Brian Bacardi of Kowloon, Hong Kong, announce the engagement of their daughter
Petra Bowels to Bill Brown, the son of Mr. and Mrs. David Brown of Bangkok. The wedding will take place in September. Miss Bowels is a graduate of the
University of Hong Kong and is a meteorologist with Star. Mr. Brown is a graduate of McGill University and is in his second year of medical school at the Medical
College of Los Angeles."

Now You have Announced

Start Your Wedding Plans Immediately!!

How to Get Married in Bali.
Bali has been called the “Island of the Gods” and it's a stunning place for a destination wedding. Whether you opt for one of the island's opulent gardens, a
wind-swept beach or choose to be married atop a pair of Sumatran elephants, a wedding in Bali is sure to be a unique experience.

Check the "Culture and Links" pages of this site for general tourist information about Indonesia and Bali and check the detailed information on marriage laws,
licenses and certificates in Bali. Be sure to comply with all the requirements.

Hire Christian as your Wedding Planner.

Decide what kind of religious ceremony you would like. A religious ceremony is essential in Bali. Both partners need to be practicing the same religion.

Choose a venue for your wedding. Christian can help you select an appropriate place.

Arrange travel for you and your guests to Bali.

Enjoy your Wedding Day.

How to Plan a Long-Distance Wedding.
As if organizing a wedding weren't stressful enough, now you're trying to do it from afar. Fret not, it's doable - it's just a little trickier.

Choose a location and date as soon as possible. This will make all of the other planning easier.

Check with the city regarding marriage requirements. Residency requirements and waiting periods can put a screeching halt to your plans if you don't know
about them soon enough.

Plan your visits to the site of the wedding carefully. Hit as many places on your to-do list as possible whenever you're in town.

Leave yourself plenty of time to travel and plan. You'll need to check some things out in person (caterer, reception location, salon where you'll have your hair
done).

Think about hiring Christian who can take care of the details for you. He'll be much more familiar with what services and people are available and can help
keep your stress level under control.

Delegate if you can't afford a consultant. If people ask whether they can help, put them to work. Have each bridesmaid cover a different project: caterer, DJ,
florist, etc.

Arrange your attendants' attire though a large retail chain, if possible. Then you won't have to mail shoes and dresses.

Reserve a block of rooms at a hotel for your out-of-town guests. Make sure the hotel has an inexpensive or complimentary shuttle service.

Consider holding two small receptions - one in your wedding city and one at home. That will save your guests from having to travel so far and will save you from
having to transport all the gifts.

Leave room in your budget for travel and long-distance phone charges.

Next Top Five Things To Do Now!

Wedding Etiquette.

What Qualifies as a Small, an Average, or Large

edding?

Do I Need a Theme for my Wedding?

Attend a Bridal Show.

You're Engaged! Now What? Top Five Things To Do Now.

Your head must be spinning with visions of your wedding day! Resist running down to the local wedding shop until you and your spouse address these five
important topics (and there will be hundreds more as well). Get out a notebook with five clean sheets and start jotting.

Step 1.
Create a list of important topics to discuss with your fiancée. Here are some to get you started.

The size of the wedding ( large or small by number of guests )
The maximum amount you want to spend on the wedding ( $5,000, $20,000, $50,000 )
The source of money for your wedding (both of you, or family )
The type of wedding ( religious, civil, theme, traditional, destination )
The number of members in the wedding party ( 2, 5, 8 )

Step 2.
Meet with the parents to discuss the topics in Step One ( if appropriate ). The tough issues: budget and guest list. Find out what is most important to them. Stick
to the topics in your list for now.

Step 3.
Pick a wedding date. Consider national and religious holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, school schedules, weather, and vacation days. It is not unusual to set a
date one year in advance, especially to reserve a popular site.

Step 4.
Start gathering information for creative ideas. If you like to follow trends, check out wedding web sites on the Internet and purchase popular bridal magazines.
Find out when future wedding shows will be in your town and plan to attend at least one.

Step 5.
Get organized! The more organized you are, the easier the planning, and the less stressful the event. Decide who will plan the wedding (most brides plan the
majority), and whether or not a wedding consultant or professional events planner should be hired.

The Next Five Things To Do Now.

Step 6.
Discuss openly and honestly with your future spouse, the "planning" responsibilities. Who will plan the entertainment? Who will plan the menu? Who will
decide on the baker and see it through? The many, many details are important.

Step 7.
Prepare a list of sites that you have always dreamed of having your wedding. On the beach, in the largest cathedral in the city, in the country, at the Country
Club, at your dad's beautiful backyard. There must be hundreds of sites available in your city or in another city ( destination weddings is the rage ). Narrow the
sites to three of your favorites, then check to see if your wedding date is available at the site before making the visit.

Step 8.
Attend wedding shows in your area. The best strategy is to attend two shows. The first time, your purpose can be "information gathering". See what vendors
offer, look at jewelry, gowns, hairstyles, cakes (and taste them too), tuxedos, flowers, balloons, etc. The second visit should be around four-to-six months
before your wedding with the purpose of making appointments with vendors you like, asking detailed questions about their services and gathering information
about pricing.

Step 9.
Discuss the size of the guest list and if 50% will be from the bride's family and 50% from the groom's family.

Step 10.
You have already reached number ten by starting the research and gathering of information. It will seem as if your entire day is spent on planning your
wedding. Be careful not to let your wedding planning get in the way of your normal responsibilities. If you feel overwhelmed, talk to someone you trust, such as
a minister, priest, rabbi, or counselor, who work with engaged couples daily and understand the stress you may experience.

Wedding Etiquette.
What is meant by wedding etiquette? The word "etiquette" means good manners or behavior. Our comment: do what feels right to you. Of course, you may be
the talk of the town, but at least you celebrated the way you wanted. Most wedding etiquette focuses on the invitations, his and her manners towards the
families and guests, careful seating of your guests, producing a tasteful event and knowing how to make their important guests feel welcome. The bride and
groom are the focus of the event and everyone is watching their every move. If something unexpected happens, the couple knows how to respond without
stressing themselves or others. The most informed bride and groom know the do’s and don’ts as expressed by those in the know. If you wish to find out what
society has published, pick up a book at your local book store (there should be an entire shelf dedicated to weddings) or go online.

What Qualifies as a Small, an Average, or a Large Wedding?
Consider two components: number of guests invited or the wedding budget. Usually, a small wedding consist of 100 guests or less. These are normally of a
smaller budget because the reception (food and refreshments) consist of 40% of the cost of the event. However, a small wedding could have a large budget of
say $20,000 consisting of the finest food and wine and other accommodations. The small wedding budget is in the range of $1,000 to $15,000.

Usually, an average wedding consist of 200-300 guests. The average budget may come as a surprise to you, but providing a seated affair or buffet, champagne
and entertainment at the reception consist of 40% of the budget.

A large wedding is an extravagant affair, and the budget isn't as important as the celebration itself. A large wedding can consist of 300-1000 guests. Providing
a wonderful reception for a large number of guests can really add up! With an unlimited budget, why not serve a savory menu and serve the best refreshments
for your once-in-a-lifetime event? Usually, large wedding costs anywhere from $75,000 to $200,000.

Do I Need a Theme for My Wedding?
A wedding theme is recommended. Having a theme gives your planning chore a focus. The theme doesn't have to be elaborate or unique; it can be as simple as
having a religious theme (Catholic, Muslim, etc.), or cultural theme (Balinese, Greek, Indian, Chinese, etc.). Do you and your spouse have a favorite sport. If you
both love to play golf, then a Country Club is a great theme with favors to match; love tennis? There have been wedding receptions on the tennis court (with
appropriate tents, seating and decor that it was hard to believe it was on the court. Find something unique that brought the two of you together, and use it as a
theme. Maybe you have a favorite flower that you want to see everywhere-- at the ceremony and the reception, on your invitations, and on the thank you cards.

How to Plan an Outdoor Wedding.
When exchanging vows under the sun or the stars, be sure to expect the unexpected. But with some creativity, planning and foresight, the adventurous couple
can have the wedding of their dreams.

Consider your wedding date. If you have your heart set on a January wedding, you may want to forgo the Oceanside ceremony.
Scout out several possible locations ' even outdoor wonderlands can get booked up far in advance.
Examine each location carefully. Is there a major intersection nearby? Is the place prone to bad weather? Are there lots of mosquitoes? Will there be
construction work in the area on your wedding day?
Ask about rules such as neighborhood noise restrictions. What could be worse than the neighbors calling in the cops to break up your reception?
Tell your vendors about the location and discuss any challenges or extra expenses they may incur in working there. You may want to hire vendors who
already have outdoor-wedding experience.
Calculate the costs of outfitting an outdoor site before you choose a location. Do you plan on providing a tent? What about lawn furniture?
Consider weather and have a backup site ready. If you have chosen a rain-prone site, make a note on the invitation: "In case of rain, please join us at ...
."
Make your site homelike: Rent amenities such as chairs, tables, linens, an electric generator, a dressing trailer, a portable dance floor and portable
toilets.
Designate a central location where guests can gather for cake, dancing, bouquet tossing and so forth.
String lights between trees, hang Chinese lanterns in the branches, rent some spotlights or scatter scores of votive candles - the possibilities are
endless.
Check for hidden costs, such as use-permit fees for public spaces.
Choose wooden rather than metal seats - they tend to absorb heat and cold.
Check with people in your wedding party about any allergies they may have.
Consider hiring a valet service or running a shuttle bus to assist with parking.

An outdoor wedding does not necessarily translate into less cost. Remember that there will be costs associated with outfitting the location and making it
accessible to guests.

Attend Bridal Shows.
What’s all the excitement about? A bridal show offers you one of the best shopping options as a wedding consumer. At the bridal show, you will be able to
meet first hand with local vendors all in one day and in one location. If possible, take a friend or relative with you, or best yet, bring your future spouse. You can
take advantage of this opportunity by first discussing your needs and expectations for your wedding before attending the show. Write down questions so you
can be prepared to ask them right on the spot.

Some of the vendors will bring samples; for example, most cake vendors will bring a variety of flavored cakes for you to taste. The tuxedo rental shops will
have tuxedos for you to touch and see ( instead of just a photo in a brochure ). Some catering companies will provide food samples ( that’s where the entire
crowd is ). You may find real jewelry, floral arrangements, videos of real weddings, and be able to sit inside a limousine. Here are some smart tips:

Be sure to wear comfortable shoes and clothing.
Bring a tote bag that you can wear on your shoulder. There are many free tote bags at the show, but you have to carry them in your hand.
Bring cash, checks or credit cards – many vendors offer discounts for point-of-sale purchases on the exhibit day.
Bring your calendar or day timer to make appointments with vendors.
Make cards or labels with your name, address, telephone number and email address ( like a business card ) to give to the vendors. This effort will save time
from having to write and e-write your personal information at each booth.
Usually a fashion show takes place at a bridal show. You don’t want to miss this event; browse close to booths located near the entry door as the time nears.
The line for the fashion show forms quickly.
Pick up free wedding magazines at the show.

Enter many contests to win bridal packages or maybe a honeymoon. Most of all have fun. Hundreds of vendors are waiting to be of service to you.

Getting Organized.

Pick Your Wedding Date.
Most Popular Months to Marry.
Special Holidays and Events.
You Have a Date, Now What Time?
Marrying Before the Wedding Date.
Your Wedding Tasks.
Twelve Months Before Your Wedding.
Six Months Before Your Wedding.
Five Months Before Your Wedding.
Four Months Before Your Wedding.
Three Months Before Your Wedding.
Two Months Before Your Wedding.
The Month of Your Wedding.

Pick Your Wedding Date
Your wedding date should be very special and personal to both of you. The day you select will be the anniversary date for years to come. Preferably the date
you select will not conflict on the days of special birthdays, anniversaries, or major religious or national holidays. Check with close family members to see if
the date sets well with them, but keep in mind that the day you and your loved one prefer will get top consideration—you can’t please everyone. Don’t forget to
consider the weather.

If you always dreamed of a beach wedding, then review the almanac for the best time of the year for your location. If you are planning a religious ceremony,
make sure your wedding date will not conflict with any major religious event. Have you noticed that most weddings take place on Saturday? A wedding can
actually take place on a Friday, or Sunday, or on any day of the week. If you plan on a large wedding, then Saturday works best for your guests. Are you
considering marrying on a holiday? That may work for you or against you. Many of your guests already have an extra day off from work for a major holiday and
can make your wedding a part of their little vacation or holiday. Regrettably, many guests have “get-away” plans for the holiday. Take extra consideration if you
are narrowing down a date that falls on a huge holiday. It might work in your favor!

Most Popular Months to Marry
June and August are the most popular months to get married, followed closely by May, September and October. The fewest weddings occur in January and
March. These months may prove to be a good time to get the best prices.

Special Holidays and Events
Jot down a list of everyone's birthday (family members) and consider holidays and weather before you select a wedding date.

You Have a Date, Now What Time?
Late morning? Noon? Afternoon? Evening? A lot of components influence and determine the time of your wedding. If you are marrying in a church, they may
only perform weddings at 11:00 a.m. and 1:00 p.m. If you have a wedding at a private villa and hire a clergy, then your options are much more flexible.

A morning wedding is a good idea if it's summer and the day gets hot and sticky as it gets old. Also, you can serve a light lunch and refreshments and save on
your budget.

An evening wedding is romantic and appropriate for a "black tie" or "smart casual" type of an event. Candles and fine wine will create a special event for your
guests as well.

An afternoon event is the most popular time to marry. The morning isn't as rushed, and it's early enough for the grandparents to enjoy the day without feeling
obligated to staying late into the night. The time you select will definitely impact the mood you want on your special day.

Marrying Before the Wedding Date.
Why are couples opting to marry in secret before their public exchange of vows? Every couple has their own personal reason. Some may find it less stressful
by sharing an intimate time together without the hundreds of decisions to be made for the big event. Some may have to marry for citizenship reasons.

Your Wedding Tasks.
The average wedding consists of approximately 300 tasks (yes! Including having your mail on hold while on your honeymoon, transporting your wedding gifts to
mom's house the night of your wedding, printing out your airlines tickets on-line 24-hours before the flight). May we suggest a planner to help you move through
these tasks without going insane?. Whatever method you decide, we would like to discourage you from keeping it all in your head because you need to get
plenty of rest on the weeks before your wedding.

How to Decide Whom to Invite to Your Wedding.
You agreed to have no more than 125 guests at your wedding. But you've just realized that between the two of you, you have 300 people you want to invite. Now
what?

Sit down with your intended and list everyone you can think of to invite.
Use the one-year rule for friends: If you haven't had a meaningful conversation with this person within the last year, don't invite him or her.
Ask your parents on both sides to help you cull people from the list.
Avoid the "If I invite this cousin, I must invite all cousins" trap. And don't feel obligated to invite people who invited you to their wedding. Relationships
change.
Exclude children if possible. Suddenly a family of six is a manageable party of two.
Address the invitations only to those you intend to invite. If your single friend rates an invitation and isn't seeing anyone seriously, you don't have to
include "and guest."
Keep the list limited to personal friends. Do you hang out with co-workers away from the office? If not, don't invite them.
Make sure that the same number of people are invited from each side. This will prevent in-laws from feeling cheated. Keep in mind that on average,
about 25 percent of your guests won't be able to make it.
Make a first and second list. Put the absolutely-must-invites on the first list, and as the RSVPs come in, send an invitation from the second list for each
regret.

Remember that these are people you're sharing your special day with. Outside of very immediate family members, you aren't required to include anyone on
your invitation list.

As a thoughtful gesture, set aside a group of 6 to 10 invitations for the parents to send to whoever they like that didn't make it onto the regular guest list.

People will bring their kids unless you spell it out for them. Try "Adults-only Reception after 9:00 PM" on your Invitations.

Twelve Months Before Your Wedding.

Having twelve months to plan your wedding is a luxury. Take advantage by securing a site that's very popular where you have always dreamed of marrying. You
can also take the tasks listed below for six months planning, and stretch it out so you can really read the vendors fine print, see and taste samples of menu
items, call vendor references, manage a workable budget, and get organized for that last busy month before your wedding. The last month before your
wedding will be very much the same as for a bride and groom who have only six months to plan their wedding.

Six Months Before Your Wedding.

Special meeting with your sweetie about the wedding style, date, location, budget and honeymoon.
Special meeting with the parents.
Decide if you have time to plan the wedding and who will take which tasks. Else, consider hiring a Christian ( he offers many flexible services )

How to Hire Christian.
Planning a wedding involves so many details that you may find you need help. A good wedding or bridal consultant will take care of the details, bring you in
under budget and help you have a stress-free and enjoyable wedding.

Ask friends or relatives who have recently been married for referrals, or check with other wedding vendors. Contact a professional association of
wedding or bridal consultants and ask for local referrals.
Be honest about your Budget tell, Christian what type of wedding you want and what the budget is. He will tell you how much of your dream wedding he
can produce on that budget.
Ask about payment. He may charge a percentage of the wedding budget, a flat fee or an hourly rate.
Give Christian a list of the services you need so that he can give you an estimate.
Ask to see Christian's business license, certificate of membership in a professional organization, tax ID number or some other indication that he is in
business and not just a hobbyist.
Ask to see letters of reference.
Ask to see pictures of weddings she has coordinated or assisted in.
Ask questions such as, "How did you handle all those children in this wedding?" or "Who do you require to be at the rehearsal?" A pro should be able to
answer these questions.
Ask about his additional experience, including her education, other work experience and special talents.
Select him if you feel you have a good rapport with him. In the end, the relationship is all about trust.
Always sign a written contract stating when and how much you will pay for the services you require and what the arrangement will be if the wedding is
called off.

Some consultants work out of their homes, and some have more experience than others. Anyone you hire should have business cards, stationery, a written
contract for you to sign and other evidence of legitimate business operations.

Treat your consultant with consideration to ensure good service and a great wedding.

After the wedding, indicate your willingness to give a reference if you were satisfied.

Trust your instincts. Don't hire someone you have a bad feeling about, someone who seems interested only in money or someone who seems unwilling to do
things your way.

Never hire a consultant who receives a commission or referral fee from other wedding vendors. This is bad business and may make it more difficult to get the
best service.

If marrying at your place of worship, make an appointment to speak with the Officiant about all the requirements. If you need an Officiant, start asking friends
and family for references, attend shows, search yellow pages and interview on the telephone.

The guest list is a necessary component that is very time consuming. Gathering names and addresses is always a challenge. You may find you have to divide
the guest list into the A list and B list because you are on a tight budget. As regrets are received, you can add the next guest from the B list.

Work on the budget. You will be surprised how little $5,000 buys for a wedding. Perhaps the $500 favors are not really needed ....

Shop for your gown. It's really too early but certainly the most fun. Try not to buy a dress on your first visit-many brides change their mind as the months pass
and new dresses appear in the magazines and bridal shops.

Make appointments to see several sites. Actually stand in the spot where you would marry and consider the site only if it feels exciting to you.

Now that you have visited some sites, which colors were appealing to you? The color theme sets the tone for your event and can be used on your invitations,
centerpieces, favors, flowers, bridesmaids dresses and table settings.

Time to select the wedding party. Usually the maid-of-honor and best man are easy to decide ( if you can't decide between two, make them both the honored
ones ). The wedding party is not only an elite group of friends and family, but also the group that you can count on to help you plan. Choose carefully, because
you don't want to be in a position of changing your mind after they answered yes. If you decided later to have an extremely small, intimate wedding, then it will
be your duty to inform the usher or bridesmaid that they will not (after all) play a part in your wedding. Avoid this situation at all costs.

Vacation Time. If you work, inform your supervisor of the time you will need off. If possible, take a couple of days off before the wedding--you may need it. Is
your destination international? Do you have a passport? If not, apply asap; sometimes it takes months to process the paperwork.

Five Months Before Your Wedding.

You got the budget under control, the date, and site and the guest list started. You spoke to an Officiate to marry you. Now it's time to research the numerous
vendors that will all play an important role in your wedding.

On-site Caterer.
If you selected a hotel, the site manager already has a wedding coordinator on board to help you with menu items and refreshments. Hotels usually have
several rooms for you to select and several menu options for every budget. Go to each of the rooms and go with the one that gives you good vibes.

Off-site Caterer.
If you are having your reception at a hall or private villa, then meet with caterers at the site. This will help them in their planning. The best recommendation for
a caterer is through referral. If you can't find one, then attend a wedding show so you can taste a sample, or at least speak with many of the vendors.

Florist.
Find a business that delivers to many weddings. You want the freshest looking arrangements for your wedding. You can see live samples at bridal shows.

How to Hire a Florist for Your Wedding.
Floral decorations help lend an aura of elegance and beauty to your wedding. Here's how to choose a florist who can produce your vision for your special day.

Decide whether you need a florist or a floral designer. Floral designers will transform your entire venue. A florist will provide you with arrangements and advice
on how to use them.

Ask friends, family, recent brides and coworkers to recommend florists.
Call at least five florists and ask about their availability.
Visit at least three florists with your partner.
Bring along pictures of your gown and the bridesmaid's gown, a swatch of fabric from the bridesmaid's gown and snapshots of the ceremony and
reception sites.
Bring a list of your favorite flowers and any flowers you don't want.
Be prepared to frankly discuss your budget.
Describe your wedding in detail: colors, degree of formality, numbers of attendants and family members, etc.
Ask to see the florist's portfolio of weddings she has decorated.
Ask if she is familiar with your venues and whether she is willing to visit the sites with you. Ask if there is a fee for this service.
Ask if the florist rents accessories such as aisle runners and candelabras.
Get a cost estimate and ask about delivery times, payment and cancellation policies.
Compare the information and discuss the pros and cons of each florist with your partner.
Expect to pay a 50 percent deposit up front. You'll pay the balance two weeks before the wedding.
Reconfirm the details of the contract when you pay the balance.
Make sure you have a contact number in case of a wedding day emergency.
Have the flowers delivered to a specific person or an exact location.

Though the groom's family traditionally pays for the bride's bouquet, mothers' corsages, men's boutonnières and rehearsal dinner flowers, it's wise to order all
flowers at the same time. In this way, you can take advantage of package or volume discounts.

Try making boutonnières and corsages yourself to save money.

Listen to your florist's suggestions; remember that she's an expert in her field.

If the weather might be hot, get flowers that can hold up to heat and humidity.

Photographer.
Make sure you interview the photographer and view his/her samples of past weddings. Make sure you feel comfortable with his/her demeanor and the
photographer will follow you from getting dressed before the ceremony, to the send-off.

How to Hire a Photographer for Your Wedding

They say a picture is worth a thousand words. What yours say about your wedding day will depend a lot on who's behind the camera.

Ask family, friends and recent newlyweds for recommendations, and set up interviews. You can also consult the yellow pages and wedding vendors, but
exercise extra caution in checking work samples and references if you find your photographers in this manner.

Request to see a complete coverage of each photographer's work - that is, ask for a picture portfolio of an entire wedding for which he or she was hired.

Choose an overall photographic style that suits you, whether photojournalistic, candid, formal posed portraits, artsy with added dramatic flourishes, color, or
black-and-white for a romantic, classy look - or select a blend of a number of styles. Which can the prospective photographer deliver?

Consider the photographer's personality. Decide if you share a vision and will get along well. Remember, the photographer will be your shadow before and
during the event.

Check prices, including those of packages offered and numbers of prints included. Remember, it may be worth it to invest in a good photographer if it means
that the memories of the day will be captured perfectly or near-perfectly on CD.

Schedule a follow-up meeting to hammer out specifics, specific shots you want and don't want, the shooting schedule on the day of the wedding, how many
photo’s will be shot, the number of proofs available.

Confirm that the photographer you hire will be the one to actually shoot the pictures.

Book early; the best wedding photographers get booked a year in advance.

Find a photographer who either is a pro or is excited about shooting weddings, and who brings some personal flair to his or her work.
A popular trend today among engaged couples is getting married abroad. You can exchange vows in a romantic setting and explore new ground together.

Videographer.
This professional has quality equipment and has samples for you to see. If you are serious about having a video of your wedding, then the expense will be
worthy. Your uncle Tom may want to film your event as a gift, but you may also have visuals that make you dizzy, or not capture the moment quite correctly.
Tom may not have the experience to clip the film and add the right music.

Invitations.
The most beautiful and creative selections are available today. No more standard-looking invitations. If you decide to create your own, don't be fooled by
thinking you will save a lot of money as special paper is costly. Also, it will be very time consuming ( but special of course ). Do you have guests coming in from
out of town? Then order save-the-date cards a.s.a.p. To get them in the mail. These cards don't have to match your theme exactly and are usually fun cards to
get the message across.

Attendant's dresses.
Give them the color theme and other particulars, and let them select their dress.

How to Prepare to Be the Maid of Honor.
The good news is you've been asked to be the maid or matron of honor. You are truly honored to be chosen--your friendship has passed the test of time. The
bad news is you've been asked to be the maid or matron of honor. It's a big job and the pressures on. Don't worry, though--good friends always rise to the
occasion.

Start saving. You'll be shelling out big bucks on your dress, shoes, shower and bachelorette gifts, and airfare and hotel costs.
Talk to the bride and see what she has in mind. Ask what her expectations are up front and how she would like you to help her. Ask what kind of shower
she would like and whom she would like to invite.
Get the measurements of the other bridesmaids to the bride when she needs them for the dresses.
Keep in touch with the bride about RSVPs. Offer to contact invited guests who haven't responded by the requested date. Also offer to mediate between
bickering family members or friends.
Send frequent e-mail messages to update the bridesmaids as well as the bride. If nothing else, it'll reassure her that you're on top of things.
Plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.
Help the bride get dressed on the big day.
Toast the bride and groom (if you want--the best man usually does this).
Point out key people to the photographer to make sure the bride gets photos of everyone she wants.
Arrange for safe delivery of the wedding gifts.
Make sure the bride and groom get something to eat and drink during the reception. Offer snacks and water before the ceremony.

Donate bridesmaids' dresses to charity after the wedding, if they won't be used again.

Put together a bridal emergency kit for the wedding. Include an extra pair of stockings, tampons, dental floss, toothbrushes and toothpaste, breath mints, hair
spray, tissues, needle and thread, pins, stain remover, small scissors, nail polish in her chosen color, aspirin, lip gloss, alka selzer, bottled water and an
energy bar.

Entertainment.
This includes music for the ceremony ( before, during and after ), the cocktail hour, the reception, and the dance. If you want a live band, the popular ones book
months ahead -- so go listen to them at a public showing and call them right away if you like them.

How to Choose Between a Band and a DJ for Your Wedding.
Music makes the party. In a perfect world, with unlimited resources, a live band/DJ combo would be bliss. In the real world, you might have to choose.

Set a budget for entertainment. A live band tends to be more expensive than a DJ. For a 4-hour reception, a DJ can cost anywhere from $200 to $1,000,
while a seven-piece band can cost between $800 and $1.500. (Note: the prices of both tend to go up, depending on reputation, demand and quality of
equipment.)
Decide upon the length of the reception. Bands tire more easily than DJs and may not be able to work as long.
Consider the location of your reception. Is it too small to house a full band? Does the establishment place restrictions on the types of music played?
Factor in the level of formality. Live music is often considered the more traditional and dignified choice. DJs are the rowdier, hipper option.
Listen to them play. Sit in on an event, attend the band's auditions or ask for a recorded tape.
Check out the band leader. Is he or she charismatic? One benefit of a live band is that the leader can double as a master of ceremonies.
Question the DJs about their album collections. DJs typically have a much broader repertoire than a live band and can easily add any special songs you
desire.

Consider your priorities and weigh the pros and cons of each. Then make a choice and book your entertainment. Bands and DJs can be booked a year in
advance.

Be sure to ask family, friends, reception site coordinators, music stores and local musicians associations for recommendations. Often, the best DJs and
bands do not have to advertise.

Cake.
You are probably overwhelmed at the artistry of today's wedding cakes. It seems like a sin to bite into it. The wedding shows usually have many bakers with
samples for you to taste and photos of popular styles. Most will work with you on a particular theme that's fitting. If you are celebrating in a hotel, the catering
manager usually works closely with a wedding baker or they can make the cake there.

Four Months Before Your Wedding.

Bridal Registry.
Now is a good time to register at possibly two stores. We recommend one store that is national for your out-of-town guests. More stores offer registry on-line
with added value of checking the status of what items are available and which ones are going fast. Go to the store and have fun selecting your gifts. More
options are available for today's brides and grooms. Many couples have lived together for awhile and don't need the usual kitchen and bath accessories. Some
couple prefers a contribution towards their honeymoon or giving to charity.

Order the wedding gown if you haven't already done so. Keep tabs with the store every once in a while to make sure the order is in good standing.
Select a couple of hotels for your out-of-town guests so that there is an option for their varying budgets.
Honeymoon plans. Visit a travel agency to consider a few honeymoon packages.
Also, get on the Internet and sign up for honeymoon giveaways. There are so many!

Marriage License.
Call the county clerk for information as to time the office is open, fee, and other requirements such as identification papers. Ask your Officiate if he or she has
inside information on obtaining the license papers.

Call your local newspaper to place an engagement or announcement to find out the particulars they need such as image size, deadlines, and costs.

Three Months Before Your Wedding.

Transportation.
Start interviewing different business, then review your wedding plans and decide who will require special transportation. Secure a date after you have
reviewed the contract and called references.

Calligraphy.
Give a copy of your guest list to the calligrapher. He or she may need a couple of weeks to complete your list.

Hairdresser.
You are probably making your six week visit to your hairdresser. Make a couple of other appointments while you are there. One for a practice ( along with your
bridal headpiece/veil ), and the other on the morning of your wedding day.

Get the groom and groomsmen, dads, ring bearer to the tuxedo shop and get measured. Order the suits on the same day.

Party rental.
If you need to rent tables and chairs, and catering equipment, research and secure a company now.

Wedding Insurance.
Gather information about wedding insurance against vendors that don't deliver. Also consider insuring the wedding rings.

Time to buy all the little necessities, such as a cake serving set, champagne goblets, flower girl basket, ring pillow, pew bows, guest book and pen. Releases.
You have many options - release butterflies, doves, bubbles, rice [ not recommended because of the mess it leaves ]

Two Months Before Your Wedding.

Gifts.
A good time to buy a gift for him/her, for your parents, for the wedding party, and anyone else who has so graciously helped you along the way.

Favors.
It's time to order favors; most favors include your names and the wedding date, and assembly, so make sure there's enough time to get this accomplished.

Mail the invitations. Your guests will appreciate the six-week notice.

Bridal lunch. As time closes in on the final months, enjoy a fun lunch with your bridesmaids and if you have a gift for them, this is a good time to present it. ( Or
you can wait until the rehearsal dinner ).

Guys bonding. Today the guys get together and enjoy a dinner at a quiet restaurant or at someone's beach house. This is a change from a wild bachelor party
and a good time to give the ushers a gift ( if you have one ).

The Month of Your Wedding.

RSVP's start arriving. Consider the amount of alcoholic beverages, soft drinks to purchase for your guests, or call the caterer for help.
Dress rehearsal with the wedding attendants. Bring everything, from headpiece to shoes.
Entertainers - Review contract, music selection, date, money owing, method of payment, their attire and if they will dine at your event.
Photographer - Review contract, provide list of photos you want, confirm date, money owing, method of payment, their attire and if they will dine at your
event.
Videographer - Review contract, provide list of parts of the event you want filmed, confirm date, money owing, method of payment, their attire and if they
will dine at your event.
Officiant - Review steps, review vows, confirm time, and if he/she will dine at your event.
Florist - Review order, confirm time of delivery and payment.
Baker - Review order, confirm time of delivery and payment. Make sure someone will be at the site to let the cake delivery person into the room.
Party rental company - Review order, confirm time of delivery and payment. Make sure someone will be at the site to let the delivery person into the hall
or park.
Reserve a restaurant or other catered event for the Rehearsal Dinner.
Review step-by-step activities with your wedding coordinator, the catering manager, or your wedding attendants.
Review the responsibilities of the bride, groom, maid-of-honor, best man, ushers, parents, grandparents, flower girl and ring bearer.

Two weeks to go? Time for the final gown fitting.

One week to go? Doesn't a massage sound just great right now?

Prepare envelopes with the names of each vendor on the outside and place cash for "tips"; give the envelope to the best man to deliver.
Pick up the rings if they were being fitted or engraved.
Gift for parents. Select a quiet time to give them their thank you gift and to show your appreciation.
Prepare a toast to thank all the important people present at the rehearsal dinner.
Final head count is needed by the catering manager, or other persons in charge of the menu.
Pack for the honeymoon if you are leaving the next morning.
Assign someone to shut down everything if you rented a hall. This includes delivering the gifts to someone's home afterward
Place your honeymoon tickets in a safe place where you'll remember them in the morning.

Feel Like a Princess in Your Wedding Gown!

Your Wedding Gown.
Styles.
Shapes & Sizes.
Colors.
Fabrics.
Trains.
After the Wedding.

Your Wedding Gown.
Is there a gown that will make you feel like a princess? The real answer is “yes”. Actually, there are thousands of gowns that will make you feel like a princess.
But you are looking for the one that also expresses your personal style. Find out which style fits you best. Most first-time brides select a ball gown. This type of
gown is fitted at the bodice and well-defined at the waist. The skirt is very full and fun to wear. Most drawings and decorations that you see show a bride
wearing a ball gown. An A-line dress is basically straight from the shoulders, somewhat fitted at the waist and spreads out just enough to walk comfortably. It’
s a very elegant choice.

Take pictures of your favorite gowns from magazines with you when you visit the bridal shop or your seamstress. Take your shoes and headpiece with you to
appreciate the full presentation. And have patience—you may try on five, ten or twenty gowns before you find the right one. Practice sitting down and hugging
while you have the dress on to find out how comfortable it is. Walk around the shop and take note of anything that doesn't quite feel right.

How to Choose a Wedding Dress
Buying a wedding dress can be an arduous process. On average, a bride will try on about 16 or 17 gowns before finding the perfect dress. Start the process at
least seven months prior to the wedding if you are having the dress made.

Cut out pictures from bridal and fashion magazines, shop online and look at old family photos to zero in on your preferred style.
Ask friends and family for references on dressmakers and designers if you are having the dress made.
Bring a friend whose opinion you trust to shop with you at bridal stores. Include your mother if appropriate.
Bring shoes with the same size heel you expect to wear at the wedding.
Look through gowns on the rack and attend trunk shows. You could save a lot of money.
Try on a variety of dresses.
Discuss alteration charges with the salon, once you choose your dress.
Allow six months for dressmaking, if the dress is being made for you.
Be ready to pay about 50 percent of the cost of the dress as a deposit.
Take home a fabric swatch to match with your shoes, veil and accessories.
Avoid taking too many friends shopping with you. They might never agree on the same dress, and you might end up confused and frustrated.
Expect to pay $1,500 to $5,000-plus for a dress from a designer.
Alterations on a store-bought dress usually run about $200.
If the dress is being made, give the salon a wedding date that is two weeks before the actual wedding. This trick will ensure that the dress will be ready
in plenty of time.
When asked to make a deposit on a dress, inquire about deposit refunds. Most deposits are not refundable.
Avoid being talked into buying a dress that costs more than you can afford.

How to Choose the Perfect Wedding Dress
You've dreamt about walking down that aisle since you were a little girl, and now the big day is approaching. Whether you're choosing a dress off the rack or
having one made just for you, follow these tips and make your dream come true.

Start your search six to nine months ahead. Special orders can take four to six months, plus time for alterations.

Keep your file of photographs of dresses you like from bridal magazines, advertisements and boutique promotions handy when you shop.

Choose a style appropriate for the ceremony. For a formal evening wedding, a floor-length dress in ivory, white, cream or champagne, often worn with gloves
and a train, is an elegant choice. Semi formal dresses can be also being pastels, a floor brushing (ballerina) length, with a short veil and no train. At a less-
formal or second wedding, the bride may choose a long or short dress, or even a two-piece suit. A short veil may be very stylish paired with a classic pillbox
hat.

Flatter your figure with a dress that suits you. Take a trusted, honest sister or friend who has your best interests at heart for feedback. Try one of each basic
shape--princess, ball gown, and sheath and empire waist--to see which flatters you most. Check that you can walk, turn, sit and bend comfortably, as well as
lift your arms and hug loved ones without splitting a seam. Comfort and confidence are vital on this day of days.

Shop at bridal boutiques or department stores for a wide array of styles. Try on a few designer gowns first so you recognize the quality, then choose a dress
based on your budget.

Set a budget. Off-the-rack dresses can be found for $250 and up. Jessica McClintock has a large selection of moderately priced gowns. A simple custom-
made dress can be had for as little as $750 and can go as high as $10,000 for a Vera Wang, with many dresses in the lower third of that range.

Ask when bridal stores are next having a sample sale. Be on the lookout for warehouse sales on discontinued styles, samples and overstocks.

Make the deposit with a credit card. Get an itemized receipt spelling out every detail (manufacturer's and design name, number, price, color and size) and
stating that the deal is canceled if your dress isn't ready by a specified date.

Budget for alterations, which can run $300 or more. Ask if pressing is included and if they'll store your dress until the big day. Also ask for recommendations
for cleaning and storing the dress.

Scout local thrift shops for excellent buys. Bridal gowns have been worn only once, so providing they've been professionally cleaned, there's no problem.
Designer castoffs cost more, but you could find a real steal for under $100.

Look for quality: beads sewn on rather than glued satin that doesn't feel so thin it might tear, a built-in petticoat or slip, and gloriously soft lace and detailing.
French lace is best; the cheap stuff is stiff.

Not particularly sentimental? Then sell your dress.

Falling in love with a particular dress or style does not mean that it will flatter your figure. Ask for honest advice from someone who knows what they're talking
about.

Styles
The 2000-2004 wedding gown has primarily been a strapless bodice and full skirt. The 2005 styles are romantic with delicate lace, and ribbons and bows,
whilst the 2006 style is minimalist. An accent of color is also very popular. You will spend endless hours looking at hundreds of gowns and trying on at least 20
at the local bridal shop. Have fun and select one that makes you feel like a princess. If possible, when you try on gowns, take shoes that have a heel similar to
the height of the one you will wear, and bring a necklace for a more complete look.

Shapes & Sizes
Is n't’t it nice that each bride's shape and size is so unique? Here is a guide to help you find the gown that will accentuate everything about you.

The hourglass body shape is very well balanced from head to toe. This bride can wear anything she likes. If her hips are somewhat larger, then stay away from
a gown that is fitted at the hip.

The pear shaped body is small on top and larger on the bottom. The best gowns include one with a slight scooped neck and a full or semi-full ball gown. Try to
stay away from a low-cut bodice or a gown that is fitted at the hips or even straight.

The apple shaped body is large on top and equally large at the hip, and a non-defined waistline. Stay away from a scoop neck, a well-defined waist and a
straight gown. Try a gown with see-through sleeves, or one that is defined at the hips.

The inverted pear shaped body is large on top and very small at the hip. The best choice includes a full-skirt or semi-full skirt ball gown. See-through sleeves
also help balance a large bodice.

Colors
The traditional bride wears a long white or cream colored gown—thanks to the Victorian era. Don’t feel pressured to do the same! Be yourself. The latest in
style includes color! Use pinks, soft blues, gold or mint, purple or..............

Wedding Events.

A Co-ed Wedding Shower.
Bridal Shower.
Bachelor and Bachelorette Parties.
Rehearsal Dinner.
Gift-Opening Party.

A Co-ed Wedding Shower.
The trend in the new millennium! Although the bridal shower is still fun ( just the girls ), a co-ed party can be just as fun—and funny! The party includes friends,
food, games, gifts, drinks, and lots of laughs. The party is usually late in the day, but can be a noon event. The Maid of Honor is the primary host of the party,
helped by the bridesmaids. With a little push, you can get the Best Man to help pay for the party.

Usually a theme is selected for the party- -Balinese, Las Vegas, Indian, Chinese you name it. The guest list is decided by the couple and should include all of
their friends that are also invited to the wedding- -well, that may be a challenge for large weddings. Party favors are not expected but can be added as an extra
touch for your guests—budget willing. Many books are available for purchase providing creative tips, menu items and games. Hint: the games are fun, but very
time consuming, so limit the games to three at the most. The co-ed games are definitely the highlight of the shower, focusing on things that the bride and
groom either like or dislike, or are good at or bad at, or know about each other ( and all in good taste and fun )

The party should be scheduled about two months before the wedding. Mail the invitations about three weeks ahead. The shower is a great way to celebrate for
those guests unable to attend the wedding ( may be on a business trip or have vacation plans ). Don’t forget to capture it all with photographs.

Bridal Shower.
Getting a bunch of girls together does’t require a lot of entertainment. Traditionally, shower games are played – most are senseless and silly, but fun. The most
time-consuming event involves opening the gifts. Make sure someone is taking notes so you know who to send a thank you to with a description of the gift.
Food is not a center of the party but finger food is usually included and a bridal cake. Who hosts the party? It should be the Maid of Honor and could include the
bridesmaids. The bride’s family should not host the party.

How to Plan a Wedding Shower
Some brides-to-be thrive on showers, while others would rather avoid the entire concept. Here are some ideas to help you throw a great party everyone will
enjoy.

Go in with one or two other people to throw the shower. Divide expenses and tasks to be done.
Discuss what type of shower the bride-to-be would prefer. The possibilities include a couple’s cocktail party, a midday luncheon or tea, or a shower for
specific items such as lingerie, linen or kitchen items.
Choose a date, place and time for the shower.
Send out invitations four weeks before the shower.
Have guests RSVP to one phone number to prevent confusion.
Include the couple's registry locations with each invitation.
If the shower is a kitchen or lingerie shower, mention it in the invitation.
With the people who are helping you, plan games, prizes, food, drinks and decorations.
Plan as much as you can ahead of time so you are free to enjoy the shower.
Have a pencil and paper handy so someone can record gifts and givers as the bride-to-be opens her gifts.
If the bride-to-be is uncomfortable with the traditional shower consisting of games and gifts, be creative and plan a cooking class, quilting bee or
pottery-painting party where everyone participates.
Always invite the mothers of the bride and groom.
Plan only one or two short games or the shower will run too long.

Bachelor and Bachelorette Parties.
Bachelor Party. The old school and new school of bachelor parties are well exercised. The old school is the gathering of guys at someone’s home or a hotel
room, lots of tequila shots, and female entertainment. Thank goodness, the new school of bachelor parties is a social gathering for the guys to bond and just
have a good time together. This includes going to a cool bar, a favorite restaurant, a backyard BBQ, or trip to a fun city. No rude, uncontrollable drinking and
unknown female entertainment.

How to Plan a Bachelor Party.
Whether you plan to camp out in the wilderness or cruise the groom's favorite nightspots, make sure your soon-to-be-wed friend will never forget this special
event.

Discuss potential dates and times with the groom and then confer with the rest of the wedding party.
Try not to involve the groom in anything except choosing the date, venue and guest list.
Tailor the party to fit the personality of the groom-to-be. If the groom's a big car fan, go to a car show, for example.
Solicit ideas from the other attendees.
Estimate costs ahead of time, and factor in cover charges, drinks and cab rides. Avoid collecting money during or after the event.
Arrange taxis or designated drivers if alcohol is part of the evening's plans.

Organizing a bachelor party is traditionally the responsibility of the best man.
Even though this is your buddy's final night as a single man, arranging a last fling is not appropriate. Do your best to put the bride's mind at ease.

Bachelor parties don't need to focus on booze and strippers. Consider group events such as paint ball, golf or house boating. A commemorative shirt for
everybody can be fun. You can also consider asking the groom what he wants to do, but don't make any promises.

If the bachelor party is the night before the wedding, make sure the groom isn't going to be hung-over or otherwise incapacitated for the ceremony.

Bachelorette Party.
The Bachelorette party is still in full swing-- but not as newsworthy as it was in the '80s; girls going to a male strip tease show--even moms participated! The
party can be at a friend's house or hotel with drinks and gifts for the bride (but the gifts focus on the honeymoon night). Have fun, drink responsibly and make
sure it's what the bride wants to do.

Rehearsal Dinner.
The rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner are wonderful events. The rehearsal is a necessary exercise in practicing for the real thing. You will learn so much; if
you have a large wedding party, ask them to be punctual and to pay attention. Remind them that there will be a dinner to let loose afterward. The ceremony is
the one event that really hits the bride and groom to the reality of all the months' planning. Take it in; savor the moment, because the next day will be filled with
so much emotion, it will become a blur. The rehearsal dinner is a fabulous gathering of your closest family and friends, all in celebration of you! Thank them,
kiss them, hug them, toast them. Take lots of photos. It's a special night. Everyone can toast.. it could be a long night.

Gift-Opening Party.
Another reason for another party! This party is very small and usually consists of parents of the bride, maid of honor, sisters, brothers, and the newlyweds. The
day is spent opening gifts and enjoying light food and drinks. This private party is usually held a few days after the newlyweds return from their honeymoon.

Jewelry.

Wedding Rings.
Her Ring.
His Ring.
Engraving.
Other Jewelry.
Diamond Basics.
The Metals.

Wedding Rings.
The wedding rings represent endless and continuous commitment to one another. Most couples purchase rings with diamonds, however, other stones are just
as precious, as are solid gold and sterling silver rings – the symbolism is the same.

The trend in rings is colored diamonds--the more color the better (opposite of a white diamond). Go shopping to see the different hues and saturation and the
tones. You will find colors ranging from faint to fancy light to fancy deep. Some customers like pink and blue, but a large variety of colors are available.

Take care of your rings by paying attention to them. Take it to the jeweler for cleaning once a year. The jeweler can also check to see if the prongs are still
strong ( for some rings ). For proper care: do not wear your diamond ring while doing rough work because the diamond can chip. Keep the diamonds away
from chlorine bleach.

Consider buying ring insurance what a great idea for a special piece. Latest trend for the 2006 colored diamonds! Popular colors are yellow, pink, blue, black
and gray. You may prefer red, purple or brown. Maybe the sprinkling of color in the bride’s wedding gown can be accented by a colorful wedding ring diamond.

Shopping hints: as always, make sure you are working with a trusted jeweler. Ask to see the “grading report” from an accredited gemological lab to discover
the original of the diamond color.

How to Understand the Symbolism of Rings.
While there's not an established significance associated with every ring you might wear, some rings are by their nature symbolic, while others take on added
symbolism depending on the finger you wear them on. This is especially true of engagement and wedding rings, but may apply to other rings as well.

Wear a mother's ring to show the birth months of each of your children. The ring is made up of birthstones - one for each child - arranged in one of several
styles.

Order a school ring that displays your year of graduation and the activities you are involved in. Tradition has it that the ring is worn with the insignia facing
inward (toward you) while you are in school, and is changed so that the insignia faces out (away from you) after you have graduated.

Wear a friendship ring to symbolize a close - but not necessarily romantic - relationship. This ring is often worn on the little finger, but can be worn on any
finger of either hand.

Choose an Irish Claddagh ring (two hands clasping a heart with a crown) as a friendship, engagement or wedding ring. Each item pictured is symbolic, as is the
way that the ring is worn.

Give or wear a promise ring to symbolize love, faith and commitment - but not engagement. This ring is usually worn on the ring finger of the left hand, but is not
as formal or expensive as an engagement ring.

Wear a diamond ring on the ring finger of the left hand to signify engagement. The diamond symbolizes purity and light.

Place a wedding ring on the ring finger of your left hand. Tradition says a vein from this finger runs directly to the heart, putting a ring worn here closer to the
heart than a ring worn on any other finger.

If students are "going steady," the boy wears the girl's class ring on his pinky finger, while she wears his ring around her neck on a chain.

The design of a promise ring can include a diamond or other stone, or be a simple gold ring with intertwined hearts.

In some cultures, the wedding ring is worn on the ring finger of the right hand.

If you give a promise ring that contains a diamond, be sure it is not interpreted as an engagement ring, especially if you are not ready to be engaged.

Her Ring.
Did he surprise you, or maybe you will shop together for the wedding ring? Don't feel alone--many brides and grooms are not ’t sure what type or shape ring
they really like. The best thing to do is shop around and soon you can narrow it down to a few choices that reflect your taste. Keep reading more hints below
before going to the jeweler.

His Ring.
Men have hundreds of choices in rings, from the most simple band (a favorite), to a few tiny diamonds, to elaborate styles. Keep reading, then go shopping.

Engraving.
Talk about special! What bride does n'’t want a loving message or her initials or newly married name engraved in her wedding ring? Ask the jeweler for the
going rate and how long it will take. This is always something that can be done after the wedding also.

Other Jewelry.
For the Bride, a necklace and earrings will add the final touch to the Bride's attire. A full dress rehearsal is suggested to really know what works best. So put
on the gown, put on the head piece, and then try on a few earring and necklace pieces. Some gowns are so intricate and stylish that a necklace may be too
much. Perhaps a simple pair of earrings will serve well. Soon you will say “that’s it”. Jewelry for men is simpler. Today’s Grooms may wear one or two
earrings (most don’t wear any). Some prefer to wear elegant cuff links, and others wear a pocket watch with chain. Other than that, it’s very individual.

How to Find the Perfect Wedding Ring.
The rings you slide on each other's fingers on your wedding day will be a lasting reminder of its promise and joy. Choose a ring you'll cherish for the rest of
your life.

Diamonds

Study styles. The traditional solitaire--a single diamond held aloft by prongs--is the most popular. Bezel settings (in which a slim border of platinum or
gold surrounds a smallish diamond) can make the gem look bigger. The anniversary style is a row of diamonds or a diamond flanked by sapphires or
emeralds.
Become fluent in the four Cs--the international language of diamonds: Carat Weight, Color, Clarity and Cut.
Ask for an independent grading report--your diamond's detailed genealogy. Don't buy a costly stone without one, since it's your guarantee that you're
getting what you've paid for.
Take a valuable diamond to an independent appraiser. If necessary, buy it first, but only with a written, unconditional money back guarantee allowing
you a few days to have it appraised.

Precious Metals

Look for marked jewelry. While gold need not by law carry the karat marks (not to be confused with carat, the weight measurement for diamonds) that
define its level of purity, virtually all reputable stores sell only marked gold. If it is karat-marked, law dictates that it also be stamped with a hallmark,
which shows that the manufacturer stands behind the karat mark's accuracy. The country of origin is also often noted.
Buy gold in a range of colors and levels of purity. The higher the karat rating, the more pure gold is in a piece and the richer the color (and the softer the
item).
Step up to platinum, the rarest, purest and heaviest precious metal. Almost double the weight of 14-karat gold, platinum is incredibly dense but also very
soft.
Shop at a jewelry store that makes you feel good. Trusting the jeweler, and subsequently the advice and jewelry he or she offers, is very important.
Ask your jeweler for a free copy of the industry's helpful diamond-buying booklet.
Buy only from a reputable retailer who will accept returns--preferably one affiliated with the Jewelers Association or another professional trade
association.

Your jeweler can have a unique report number laser inscribed on your diamond's outer edge. If you ever have it resized or professionally cleaned, you can
make sure you're getting your own diamond back. Grading reports and identification numbers also serve insurance purposes.

Establish a relationship with a reputable jeweler who will be able to resize, clean, remount and engrave your jewelry over the years.

KARAT           PERCENTAGE GOLD                                                                                DESCRIPTION

24k              100 percent pure gold                                                     So soft that it is not often used for jewelry.
18k                75 percent gold, mixed with copper or silver         More "lemony" in tone, strong enough for rings.
14k                58.3 percent gold                                                           Lightly reddish hue comes from added copper alloys.
10k                41.6 percent gold                                                           Less than 10-karat gold can't legally be called or sold as gold.

Budget.

Tipping Vendors.
Who Pays For What?
Out-of-Town Guests.

Tipping Vendors.
Tipping is something that is many times overlooked in the planning stages. And the tipping costs can be substantial once you add it all up. In any event, take
some time to review the potential costs of tipping and who will carry the “cash” to tip during your special day. How much to tip? Read the articles for each
vendor for how much you should tip.

In most cases, you will want to tip vendors in “cash” so be prepared to carry cash and/or prepare envelopes with the vendor's name on the outside.
Additionally, arrange for certain family members or wedding party members to deliver the tips. It sounds like a perfect job for the best man and the maid of
honor.

Who Pays for What?
Today’s 2006 bride and groom pay for at least half of their wedding costs. Make sure discussions are made and agreed upon by the payer (make no
assumptions here). The following list of who pays for what is just a guide. You don’t need to follow any of it; the list is provided as old customs followed.

Bride’s Family Traditionally Pays For ......

Reception (food, beverages).
Photography, videography.
Entertainment (ceremony, cocktail hour, reception/dinner).
Bride’s gown and accessories.
Flowers for the wedding party (corsages, bouquets, boutonnières).
Gifts for attendants and parents.
Favors and decorations.
Wedding cake.
Stationery (invitations, thank you cards, etc.).
Lodging for out-of-town guests.

Groom's Family Traditionally Pays For ......

Flowers for the bride.
Transportation (bride & groom, parents/grandparents).
Officiant.
Groom’s tuxedo and accessories.
Rehearsal dinner.
Honeymoon.

Wedding Ushers and Bridesmaids - usually pick up their own wedding attire and related expenses.

Out-of-Town Guests
Unless money is no object, out-of-town-guests are expected to pay for their own expenses.